What good is a second chance?
In everyone’s lives, there comes a time when we have the opportunity to give someone else a second chance. In relationships, this is often one of the toughest things to figure out because of all the feelings that are involved.
Some things to think about:
Do you have doubts?
If you have doubts, then I seriously do not think it is worth it to give a relationship another go. In a weird way, things that we don’t believe in have a way of falling through because of our doubts. Life does surprise us at times, but most of the time, the thoughts and energy that our bodies give off shape our future. Have you ever heard the saying: “All that we are is a result of what we have thought?” If you believe in this, then start having good thoughts.
If you decide on a second chance,
Know what you need to do to not make the same mistakes. Figure out what the both of you could change/work on. One person can’t make their significant other change. Change comes from within and through your own personal experiences as you go throughout life.
Figure out if you can accept the other person for what they did to you to have you question a second chance or if it is something that will bother you in the future, or worse, hurt you. It is vital that you talk to the other person before giving them a second chance or asking for a second chance so that it can be understood on both sides what is wrong. A lot of the time, having these kinds of conversations can make you or the both of you realize things that you never had before.
Miscommunication can often be one of the biggest factors in why a relationship fails and/or why the question of a second chance would come up in the first place. This is why it is stressed that between the both of you have a good conversation before reopening the doors to a relationship. At times, things can be hard to say, but they must be said. Feelings are not easy for everyone to talk about. However, at some point in your life, you are going to need to be open with each other. If you really care about someone and they need to know something, then let them know!
Make sure you have thought everything through
Always have a 24-hour rule when making decisions like this, especially decisions involving your feelings. Don’t make promises when you’re happy. Don’t reply when you’re angry, and don’t decide when you’re sad. Just because the opportunity for a second chance comes up doesn’t mean you need to give it one.
Always follow your gut feeling. If someone isn’t right for you, your gut should tell you. Sometimes, you are meant to fall in love with someone but not be with them. Try to think about the times you have spent with this person and ask yourself if you have had more happy times than bad times. Ask one of your closest friends what they think about the situation. Sometimes your true friends know you better then you think.
Finally, is there trust between the two of you? If, in one instant, you believe you cannot trust the other person, then a second chance is not going to do anything good for you. You should take risks but, again, what is your gut feeling?
Quotes to help you through and give you some things to think about!
Fool you once, shame on him. Fool you twice, shame on you. – Proverb
If you leave without a reason, don’t come back with an excuse.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t, nothing can make him stay. – Sex and the City
There are some people in life that make you laugh a little louder, smile a little bigger and live just a little bit better. Go hang out with those people! – unknown
Being Single = Less drama, but lonely. Being in a relationship = Chance of being cheated, but chance of being loved. The choice is yours…
Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the biggest fool of all? Must be the girl who can’t stop crying. Or maybe the girl who kept on trying.
When something is missing in your life, it usually turns out to be someone. – Robert Brault
Don’t worry about the people in your past. There’s a reason they didn’t make it to your future. – unknown
People change. Feelings fade. Lovers drift. Friends leave. Friends become enemies. Lovers become strangers. You’ll be judged. Life goes on! – unknown
Even if you think the grass is greener on the other side, you’re going to have to mow that side too. – Joyce Meyer
Second chances don’t always mean a happy ending. Sometimes, it’s just another shot to end things better. – unknown
I believe in second chances, I just don’t think that everyone deserves them. – unknown