The College Dating Game

College dating is not easy. It is in fact a game, a battlefield even. Dating wasn’t always like this, was it?  I feel as if people are almost soo good at this game now that more and more people are just coming off as what we call “players.”  Let’s be real when we like someone we are going to scare them off if we admit we like them right away.  The flirting, doubt, dates are necessary to invoke interest and really get to know someone.

Found on high-on-h0pe.tumblr.com.

Where the problem comes in

Okay so if it is okay to play the dating game, when do you know when to stop?  When do you let the wall you’ve put up down and admit to someone that you like them?  This is one of the hardest things to figure out when you want to start a relationship with someone and honestly I don’t have the answer for you.  Sorry guys…

So where can we learn about how to play this game better?

I have one word for you: experience.  That’s the only way to learn how to play the game.  Know that there is not only one way to date.  This game is fun because you create your own rules, you create your own boundaries.  Isn’t it nice to know this?  I think so. Take your own advice, ask others for advice, create your own story and your own experiences are all things you can do.

I’d like to comment on something Kathryn Alice, author of Love Will Find You: 9 Magnets to Bring You and Your Soulmate Together.  She said:

“People are so savvy right now that they can immediately weed out someone who’s insincere.”

I do believe this is true. The dating game is a game and not everyone is good a playing or competing in the same things, right?  However I am someone that finds this attractive in someone else, because I am someone who hates playing the game anyways…

I’d like to know what everyone thinks about dating these days. Especially my college peers. Looking forward to reading your comments. Thanks for reading everyone!

This story was inspired by an article on match.com. You may find the article here.

Some quotes:
So conclusion…Love really is a Battlefield:Not only is it a Battlefield…it is always a Game, the most twisted game ever… – Talia Scatliff

Girls, never admit to a guy that you like him. Game over if you do. Game over!? You may be wondering why this is a game in the first place ? Well let me just tell you that it is. It is and it is a game that you may never get out of… – Talia Scatliff

“Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates and guys are just people to have fun with.” – Candace Bushnell, Sex and the City

“Don’t leave a piece of jewelry at his house so you can go back and get it later; he may be with his real girlfriend.” – Amy Sedaris

You took 30 min to text me back… I’ll take 31 – Unknown

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